I Have a Problem


I may very well tick some people off with this post but I am going to say this anyway. And just so you know, yes, I have prayed about it.

No names, no pack drill.”  That’s a military expression inferring that no one specifically is going to be named and no one’s specific identifying methodology will be focused on.

There is a fine balance or line between being dedicated to the purity of maintaining a right relationship with the Lord and being a conduit for the love of God that flows from Him to others, through us.

I am acutely aware that the needle of maintaining this balance can sway from one side to the other periodically, largely dependent on the crux of the issue at hand being discussed but …. and this is key, when the needle consistently sways in one direction and seldom goes in the other, I have a problem. Please note that if all you ever talk about is God’s love, I do have a problem with that and also please note that if all you ever talk about is what you’ve done to maintain your pure relationship with the Lord and how others fall short, I also have a problem with that.

I can read a post and the words are all correct, the truth of the scriptures being quoted all ring true yet there is an element missing and this missing element is consistent throughout the vast majority of posts from this person or site. The element that I am talking about is love, or what I call the natural joy of the Lord that flows from a heart that has found peace and acceptance in the Lord.

I find, from experience, that the peace and acceptance flows out from that person to others, through their sense of humour, their willingness to self criticize and especially their acceptance of others. There is a tone, it is not just what they say but how they say it.

I have a problem with people who are consistently the sole voice on the mountain top proclaiming their never ending saga of fighting for the integrity and truth of the Lord, from their perspective. I have a problem with people who appear to give the impression that they alone are the sole voice crying out in the wilderness with clarity. I have a problem with people who’s history is laden with their personal perspective of continually being the opposed viewpoint. Short story – if you continually being opposed you probably doing something wrong. I’m not saying what you are doing is wrong, I’m saying how you are doing it is probably wrong.

I ask myself a question after I have read a good number of posts from a particular person. And the question I ask myself is this, “Would I like to spend serious time with this person, would I enjoy having this person in my home sharing their faith and walk with God?”  Usually the answer comes back pretty quick.

The question we all should ask ourselves is that when others are in our presence, how do we make them feel? This applies to our neighbours and to our fellow believers. Is everyone a Christian? Obviously no. Is everyone a mature Christian? Same answer. There is a reason why the Apostle Paul exhorts us to deal gently and kindly with others.

If you have time, please read a previous post of mine that illustrates this necessity.

I am also acutely aware that the criticism that I am identifying could be applied to myself at times. The key word here is ….. at times, again being dependent on the crux of the issue being discussed at any given particular point in time. The point I am making is that the needle should move, consistently, if it doesn’t move there is a problem.

We all know 1st Corinthians 13, the love chapter. Paul speaks truth and if we ignore it, we do so at our own peril. Love is not optional. Love is in essence, the motive behind everything that we do. I know it may not always come across as such but it is a truth.

Yesterday in Church I heard our Pastor say something that grabbed my heart. He was talking about Jesus not wanting to go to the cross. You recall when Jesus was in the Garden of Gethsemane in Matthew 26:36-46 NIV and Jesus prayed to our Father saying “My Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me; nevertheless, not as I will, but as you will.” The motive behind Jesus going to the cross is for two reasons, His love for His Father and His love for us. Love is the motive behind everything that God does and if we don’t get that we’ve missed the whole point and there is a need to let that love show.

Could I be wrong in my overview of someone, yep, been there, got the T-Shirt. Just give me something to work with once in a while, take a trip on the lighter side, illustrate God’s sense of humour, the tenderness of His love in your life, how His mercy has invaded your heart. Open up, be real, show me you’re human like the rest of us. My point being is that it is not always us and them, more times than not, it’s us and us.

Worthy is the Lamb! Blessings!







Disciple of Jesus, married to Peggy, with 5 grown up children, 7 grand children, ex-Canadian military and residing in beautiful Dartmouth, Nova Scotia, Canada. a.k.a. "Papa"

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8 comments on “I Have a Problem
  1. Pete says:

    You said a mouthful! Nice to rant once in a while. That can move the needle as well. I pray we all can be genuine in our posts and realize we must share the ups and the downs if we’re honest.

  2. This is an excellent post, Bruce. Sigh. It is impossible to keep the balance without God’s Spirit directing us. And even then, it’s easy to get distracted and then end up on the wrong path. Grace. Grace is so crucial. You are so right about that! Thank you for this post. I so respect your honesty and your steadfast stand for God, His Truth and Grace. God bless you, my godly friend!

    P.S. I’ve been off-line for sometime. I have a lot of catch-up on reading your fantastic posts to do, and so if you see a comment pop up here and there on old posts, you’ll know I’m just reluctant to let any gem get away. 😉

  3. dettinger47 says:

    Very powerful post, Bruce. It’s telling that my first instinct was to look at our common bloggers and try to figure out who you’re talking about. However, just by stating that, I see my own flaws. I’ll take what you wrote and let the Lord use whatever is in it that applies to me to smooth over my (many) rough spots … you know, that whole thing about the plank in one’s eye.

    Great post, and thanks for your boldness.

    • Bruce says:

      David, now I feel like a creep! I don’t continue to follow those bloggers who don’t show the love aspect in their posts and that surely takes you off the list. And I have a heck of a lot more rough edges than you. You never ever crossed my mind, honestly. It’s the extremes that I was primarily focused on. I honestly had no intent on this applying to you or any of the people that I currently follow. I’m truly sorry if I came across that way. Blessings!

      • dettinger47 says:

        Hi Bruce, no, I didn’t take it personally at all. I knew it wasn’t about me. What I meant was that instead of looking for blame in others, there is much I can take from this blog, and that I should use it as a vehicle for a little cleansing. But no, I didn’t for a second believe it was about me. Thanks, though, for the thoughtful reply.

      • Bruce says:

        I’m so glad you knew because I would feel terrible if you ever thought that I questioned the love that I see in all of your posts. And about the cleansing, you’re absolutely correct and that applies to me also. The post link within this post is the essence of what I was getting at, where God said to me, “What did you expect him to say?” I was the one getting slapped on the wrist in that instance. Blessings!

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