Non-Zero Sum, Part 1 — Those Who Sin Differently

Sometimes, taking sides just causes evil to propagate. What would being a peacemaker look like, instead?

Every once in a while I run into a blog post that speaks of a Biblical truth that honestly looks at the core of a prevalent problem, where God’s wisdom and humanities normal response are seen to be in opposition. This repost is one of those posts. Considering that, as Christians, we are to illustrate God’s light to a dark world and to one another, this is a timely post that we all need to be reminded on. It is a two part post and I will repost the author’s (M. Dennis) second post on this highly needed reflection, when he produces it. And, if you don’t already follow M. Dennis’s blog, I would strongly encourage you to do so. I have found his posts to be well balanced and containing much wisdom. At a minimum, Take the time to read it, you’ll be glad you did.

I will repost M. Dennis’s post here for your viewing convenience.


My dad tells the story of a time when two of my sisters were fighting.  When the tears had subsided enough to learn what was going on, one of them explained what had happened: “She hit me back!”.

In the news (and public reaction to the news) today, it seems that one must always take a side.  When an evil act occurs (which it often does in this fallen world), any evaluation of wrong behavior or bad choices on both sides is somehow considered taboo.

To be clear, many do suffer in this world for reasons that they don’t deserve: Children are conscripted, exploited, and harmed by the sins of adults.  Bystanders are caught up in conflicts that are fostered and nurtured by the hate of others.  Some victims are only guilty of being in the wrong place at the wrong time, or having a certain background, appearance, or accent.  Evil people do evil things that still shock decent people.  Our world is fallen: both cursed because of the sin of mankind in general, and marred by the bad choices that people – including each of us, I’m afraid – continue to make.  The effect of both of these facts still impact the innocent (and relatively innocent) among us.

We must not blame victims for the sins of others (nor should you carry any blame or shame for sin that was someone else’s responsibility).  However, there is a difference between an assault and a fight.  If we are honest – and not encumbered by the fear that we will be assaulted in the sphere of public opinion for doing so – it is often both parties who have done something wrong in the latter case.  This does not excuse the behavior of either, but evil is not a zero-sum game.  For instance, political attack ads often suggest that one candidate is unfit for the job, but that doesn’t always mean that the opposing candidate should be elected, either.  Angry people arguing with angry people should not expect a “pass” to be granted either.  Many debates are between two equally-wrong or equally un-loving points of view.

Just because someone else – who thinks different than me – is wrong, that doesn’t make me right.  When we believe that we are always right when our opponent isn’t, and feel justified in doing whatever it takes to “get them back”, what happens instead?

If we Return Evil for Evil, then Evil Wins

For one thing, evil escalates.

When we lie to our friends, and they do something mean in return, neither we nor they are free from culpability.  When one corporation, political party, or nation attacks the members of another group, and then receives similar (or worse) treatment in retaliation, the paying back of wrong for wrong doesn’t make either wrong right.

Instead, the Bible provides clear instruction on this:

Never pay back evil for evil to anyone. Respect what is right in the sight of all men.
Romans 12:17 NASB

http://bible.com/100/rom.12.17.NASB

Even when two parties are both at fault, the sins of one cannot be assigned to the other.  We must not blame victims for the evil of others in a one-way attack, but when wrong behavior is found on both sides of a fight, loving guidance to address the wrong choices made by each person may be appropriate; however, this must still be tempered with grace and wisdom.

If We Return Evil for Evil, then Relationships are Ruined

Propagating a cycle of hurt and harm rarely succeeds in persuading the other party to back down, reform, or turn into a purveyor of kindness.

If we can be part of the cycle of peace, we have a chance to actually defuse a situation.  This may grate against our sense of personal “fairness” (which can be a cover for just wanting to get our way), but there may be a larger benefit to a relationship in being the better person, and leaving a slight or insult un-avenged.

“Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God.
Matthew 5:9 NASB

http://bible.com/100/mat.5.9.NASB

Peace often comes as a choice.  While our natural reaction is typically to react “in kind” (rather than kindly) when we are wronged, pausing to do something better typically requires a conscious effort.  This may mean staying our hand from the horn, or biting our tongue for a moment.  Peace with a hostile party doesn’t happen unless the other party decides to not escalate the situation or propagate the tension.  Sometimes (often?) we must be that “other party” who makes the better choice.

Side Thought:

This doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t be wise.  For instance, if a friend continued to get mugged repeatably while taking the same path home each evening, suggesting an alternate route would be wise and appropriate.  Suggesting that he was responsible for tempting the robbers by walking from his place of employment to his car (unless he was counting through his cash each night in the open) would probably be out of line.

In the same way, we might forgive friends for not keeping our trust, but that doesn’t mean we should continue to confide in them.  Sometimes, we may need to even stop spending time with certain people – not to punish them, but to protect both them and ourselves from temptation against which we know we are weak.

In any case, may we each strive – with God’s help – to:

  • Call evil as evil (even if it seems to be the “lesser” evil).
  • Propagate peace by not repaying evil for evil, and in doing so, curtail the spread of evil.
  • Seek reconciliation in relationships…as much as we can (understanding that just as it takes two to fight, it also takes two to achieve bilateral peace; however, it takes just one to forgive).

In part 2, let’s consider where evil comes from, and what we can do to overcome it.

You can also view the post directly from the author’s web site at Non-Zero Sum, Part 1 — Those Who Sin Differently

4 Comments

  1. Definitely good advice. If we give back evil for evil, not only does evil win, but we lose. We have stooped down to a different level, and must rise back up and ask forgiveness. As Christians, we have a higher calling and should NEVER give back evil for evil!

    Be blessed

    BTW – we are going to try recording tonight’s service with my computer. If it works, I will post it to YouTube and then post it here.

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    1. Couldn’t agree with you more, it’s the practical application that isn’t always easy but that’s what Jesus called us to do. Looking forward to viewing your recording of tonight’s service! Grace and blessings!

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