When it comes down to our final breath, when the curtains close on this existence that we have been given, there are some who will think that it all turns black and we just cease to exist, that our thoughts just totally stop and that for lack of better words, we are no more. I can understand that logic, I just don’t agree with it.
My wife and I have five children and there isn’t one of them, regardless of their differences, that we do not love with all of our hearts. Not one of them is identical, each one of them has different characteristics and beliefs, yet my wife and I love each one of them, irrespective of their differing characteristics and beliefs. Any loving mother or father will know what I mean. Imperfect parents loving imperfect children. It’s just the way that it is.
When we become adolescents and even earlier, we begin to formulate our own thoughts and beliefs. These thoughts and beliefs can come together in our minds and hearts through a variety of factors that may be similar or different for each one of us. How we are treated, how we treat others, our personal insecurities and strengths, all play a role in the formulation of our thoughts and beliefs.
And, in most cases, we learn from our experiences. We learn for example that who we think we are and who we really are, are not necessarily one and the same thing. We may think we are loving but experience will show us that even though we may love someone else, it doesn’t always stop our self centered and unrealistic judgements of others, even those that we love, when we honestly examine how we treat others and how we want to be treated. Short story is that we have a habit of expecting others to be more accommodating of our needs and wants than we are of accommodating the needs and wants of others. It’s the way that we are.
Our expectations and ideals have a tendency to change over the years. What we initially thought was relatively simple, becomes more complicated. We have a tendency to overlook factors that are important, we have a tendency to focus on our priorities and downplay our weaknesses.
I saw the mistakes that my parents made with me. My children see the mistakes I made with them. Their children will also see their parents mistakes. It’s a lot easier to see a mistake versus not making the same mistake yourself, or even creating new ones. It’s the way we all are.
I love my wife with all of my heart but I made a lot of mistakes. I love my children with all of my heart but I also made mistakes with them. We all make mistakes, we all fall short of our ideals, the variance is just a matter of degrees. I am far from being a perfect husband, I am far from being a perfect father and I am far from being a perfect Christian. This is the way that I am.
I think the biggest misconception that I personally had was that I thought that I could put it all together, that I could make it work out the way that I wanted it to work out. Of course, that includes everything, my relationship with my wife and children, my success at my chosen field of work, my goals and needs being realised. And the thing is, that for a while, some longer than others, we think we are making headway but then, sooner or later, the reality of our unconsidered or unacknowledged deficiencies begin to raise their ugly heads and honest reality begins to unfold, versus our version of reality.
I marvel at my own conceitedness, that this mind of mine and this heart of mine could successfully plot out my own course and reach my expected goal all by myself. Not only was I ill equipped to understand the complexity of my situation but I was woefully unprepared to look at honest reality versus my version of reality, especially as it pertained to myself.
Jesus said that there are people who have eyes to see but do not see and have ears to hear but do not hear, that there are people who are blind, leading others who are blind.
He was talking about me.
Religion, who needs it, right? I certainly didn’t. And then there are so many “religions” to fumble through, even if one wanted to look at someone else’s perception of “reality”. Just not worth the trouble, besides, it’s all man’s ideas about what people don’t understand anyway. That was my thinking . . . then.
The word “grace” has a special meaning to me. It means to receive unwarranted favour or consideration. The key word there is “unwarranted”. I personified “unwarranted“.
I can’t speak for others, I can only speak for myself but I’ve always believed that God existed, as far back as I can remember. Didn’t understand any of it but I just believed that He was there. How He and I would or could relate to one another I didn’t have a clue but I believed that He was there.
My road of walking with Jesus hasn’t been easy. And God, in His mercy, has shown me an awful lot of grace, far too much for me to tell you about in this post.
You can argue with me all you want but God is real.
You can argue with me all you want but Jesus was and is real and He is God’s Son.
You can argue with me all you want but I have experienced the love of God because of Jesus and what He did for you and me on that cross that He died on. He is my hope and I love Him. This didn’t happen overnight, at least not for me.
You can argue with me all you want but Jesus did rise for the dead. That’s the reason for Christianity and why Christianity is different from all other “religions”. Look at the Apostles testimony, look at the early church. Look at the millions and millions of changed lives, including my own.
Through sheer unwarranted grace I have been in His presence and I never wanted to leave, never, ever. Haven’t got a clue why He allowed me to experience that but He did. You can read about it here if you are interested. He allowed me to taste and I long for the day when I will be continually in His presence. This world is temporary, God’s presence is eternal. Don’t allow the world to blind you to His reality.
I am no better in myself than anyone. That’s the truth. I cannot comprehend why God loves us the way He does but He does. And He has demonstrated that love that He has for us through His Son Jesus. Read what Jesus said (Gospel of John is a good place to start), look at what He did and call upon His name. Jesus is who God our Father sent us, so that we might know Him. Jesus said that he who has seen me has seen the Father. Jesus personifies our heavenly Father, that’s how important He is.
What you do with regard to Jesus is the single most important decision you will ever make in this life. Take the time, disregard all the hype, listen to His words and take His words to heart.
You can argue with me all you want but this world that we live in, this life that we have been given and all that we see and experience, is all about seeing Jesus for who He is and what He represents from God, our Father, to us.
My wife and my children know me. I can’t be any more honest that I am being now. I have two sons and a daughter who do not share my faith and trust in Jesus. I understand their logic, maybe if my witness as a husband and father had of been better, things might have been different, I don’t really know. There are no perfect parents that I am aware of and there are no perfect sons and daughters. That’s not an excuse, it is just a reality. Look at Jesus. He is the Christ. Please don’t reject Jesus because of my mistakes. I am not the Lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world, He is.
Jesus said in John 14″1-6 NIV, “Do not let your hearts be troubled. You believe in God; believe also in me. My Father’s house has many rooms; if that were not so, would I have told you that I am going there to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am. You know the way to the place where I am going. Thomas said to him, “Lord, we don’t know where you are going, so how can we know the way?” Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.”
Worthy is the Lamb! Blessings!