Forgive Me For Being Me

God blessed me yesterday during a conversation I had with one of my sons who is not a Christian. The conversation was unexpected. I spoke to my son about the reality of Jesus Christ. It’s not the first time that I have done this but this time was different. The words from my heart where all there, I was able to articulate exactly what I truly wanted to say and I knew in my heart that I couldn’t possibly have said it any better. I lift my son up in prayer every day as I do for all of our five children. When I say children, please understand that they are now all grown adults. When our conversation was over, I felt so very thankful for this gift that God had just given me. I have no clue what impact it had on my son, but as always, I am hopeful. It was an extraordinary conversation and I have learned that extraordinary things don’t just happen by chance.

Our conversation started out discussing politics and changed to philosophy and then of course to Jesus. My discussion with my son made me mindful of my failures to him as a father. Especially with regard to me being a witness to the reality of God and me being the example of God’s love and grace to him, in our home and later on in his independent adult life. I wasn’t a terrible father, but for sure, I could have been a lot better, especially when it came to being a Christian example. There were too many times when my light that should have shined was very dim or totally extinguished, to my shame.

Problem being, it’s pretty hard being an example for someone else on how to stay afloat in this big ocean we’re all in, when your drowning yourself. And that of course was exactly the position that I was in. It’s a long story, I’m not going to go into specific details but believing in God and earnestly trying to walk with God are not one and the same thing. Even church activities can mask this reality.

One of the things we talked about was love and how of all the things that we encounter, love is the most cherished reality. My son and I love one another, that’s never really been in question, although I’m sure that there may have been doubt introduced at times on both of our parts. The blind leading the blind comes to mind. Once again, I am his father and it is I that should have been showing the way. My mistakes in judgement, anger, unbalanced decisions, too much strictness when some flexibility could have been given, are some of my shortfalls, to name but a few.

And I’d like to think that if I knew then what I know now, things would have been different but knowing myself as I do, I can’t say that with absolute assurance. I’m still prone to over react, emotions can still over ride what I know in my heart to be true. I’m not perfect, never have been and as long as I am in the body, I sincerely doubt that I ever will be. That’s because part of me is me and part of me is Jesus living in me. Percentages may have changed over the years but God is still working on me. The scary part is that the closer you walk with God the more you come to realize how much yet needs changing. Even after our rebirth of being “born again”, it can be a long long road back to Eden.

That’s why true justice for all, forgiveness and mercy are such big things with God, why Jesus focused on our need to acknowledge and forgive one another so much. It scares me how wrong I have been and it scares me how wrong I still can be. My God is holy and I in and of myself am not. That’s why I need Jesus, desperately, every minute of every hour of every day. Walking with God is about dying to self and having Christ live in us and it’s not easy because either consciously or unconsciously, this body, mind and heart of ours, strives to keep alive that which needs to die, if we earnestly desire to be holy like our holy God. And it’s only when we honestly strive to accomplish this requirement that we come to realize that we can never do it by ourselves. That’s why the Law including the 10 Commandments was given in the Old Testament, to show us the standard that we could never meet. Israel is not alone, we’re all slow learners.

That’s why God our Father sent us His Son to make us holy through faith in Him and what He accomplished on our behalf. That’s why Jesus said that without Him we could do nothing. That’s why our one justifiable work is to believe in Him that the Father has sent because Jesus is God’s forgiveness to all of us, who accept it. The only possible solution at being one with our holy God is accepting God’s forgiveness for our sins, that God extends to us through the shed blood of His Son. Repentance is acknowledging that our ways don’t work, that our ways need to become His ways and our thoughts need to become His thoughts. And we, in faith, turn to God’s Son, to accomplish this transformation in us, beginning in this earthly body and being fully realized at our own promised resurrection.

And we, God’s children, are to extend forgiveness, to one another. Because He alone is good, He alone is perfect and He alone is holy.

So I’m hoping and praying that my son can forgive me for being me, just as I forgive him for being him and that he also will look to Jesus, who is the author and finisher of our faith.

Worthy is the Lamb! Blessings!

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Disciple of Jesus, married to Peggy, with 5 grown up children, 7 grand children, ex-Canadian Armed Forces and residing in beautiful Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada. a.k.a. "Papa"

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18 comments on “Forgive Me For Being Me
  1. bcparkison says:

    You have been a good planter..now let god do the growing.

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  2. Bruce, my book was written for folks like your son. It might help him along. theworksofhishands.com

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  3. Stephen says:

    Good to hear Bruce. If you have time, check out my dear friends latest video. It speaks to the power of God and the power of love. No bible verses required. It’s the flip side of your blog post.

    Blessings

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    • Bruce says:

      Thanks Stephen, I’ll check it out. I actually thought of you when I wrote this post. Good to see ya!

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      • Stephen says:

        I always appreciate it when people think of me. I just hope it’s positive most of time.
        The fact you and your son are close, shows you’re a pretty darn god dad none the less Bruce. I just had this discussion with an 80 year old customer. He’s been a rock to his son and his son loves him very much. Warts and all

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      • Bruce says:

        That’s the best you can hope for. Glad to see you again, grace and blessings!

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  4. Jeff Rab says:

    Totally understand and identify with this post, Bruce!

    What you wrote I too feel, for I could have done better, could’ve been worse …. “I wasn’t a terrible father, but for sure, I could have been a lot better, especially when it came to being a Christian example. ”

    I wonder sometimes as grandparents and parents of adult children that we tend to look back too much at times and beat ourselves up with a machete instead of accepting grace as it is, at least for me.

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    • Bruce says:

      I hear you Jeff, God has showered A LOT of grace on me and I probably do focus too much on the negative but it kills me when I think of some of my stern decisions and shortfalls. I just don’t want my failures to be the reason for my son to reject Jesus, I know that I got choked up and he expressed his love for me too so I’m just hoping that God uses it to touch his heart. Besides, I SAW the playhouse you built, pretty sure we’re not on the same ball field! There’s a lot of positives that I did but one has a tendency to forget those, hopefully he doesn’t.

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      • Jeff Rab says:

        Thanks, Bruce, but building men is a lot different than building a playhouse. From what you wrote, I think we’re in the same ballpark, and I’m positive we’re on the same team!! 🙂

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  5. Beautiful message brother, I’m sure you seen the thread of posts I’ve been marking through. I found great comfort in your quote “It scares me how wrong I have been and it scares me how wrong I still can be.”

    That’s why there’s no way through this world without Jesus, because he’s the only one that can cover the deficit.

    I too pray for my son every day, especially as I wake up to more and more of the ways in which I justified myself by saying I didn’t do to him what my dad did to me, but the reality is what I wasn’t able to give him because of my own brokenness speaks just as loud. I’m grateful that my son and I also have a good relationship but it’s shallow on many levels. I’m trusting God to continue to open new doors to have conversations like you describe, my heart soars with joy in hearing your words about connecting with him. Great post thanks brother!

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  6. SLIMJIM says:

    I read this and I hear your passion, you being honest and vulnerable and humble. I pray God uses what you said to him, to bring your son to know Christ

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  7. Cindy Dawson says:

    “Because they put their trust in God, He answered their prayers.” 1 Chronicles 5:20b
    I’ll be praying for Anthony, too. Blessings, Bruce!

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