This repost from Cindy is probably one of the most important pieces of the puzzle that I have ever read and understood. I use the word “puzzle” because this is the critical ingredient (love) that is so often missing and I have been guilty of adding to the problem instead of shining light on it. This is the comment that I sent to Cindy.
“Wow, well you’re not alone Cindy, I just got pruned too. I will repost this, thank you so much for sharing it. That line where you said about being careful not to crush their spirit really spoke to me. Sometimes out of fear, for the person we care for, we speak a caution but the tone can be all wrong. I’ve been guilty of that too. This is like level two of “What did you expect them to say?” which the Lord said to me many years ago. What is scary is that I see a lot of this in others and I instinctively know it is wrong but I dealt with it the same way they dealt with it. One of my daughters, who is a relatively new Christian, sometimes roams into areas that cause me concern and I’ve mentioned it to her a number of times. She asked me to trust the Shepherd that guides her and me also, and I do, but I still have this need to caution, out of fear, out of concern. This changes the tone of the caution. I will still caution but with different words and a different tone. Then there is self centered pride, which is a whole new kettle of fish, this addresses that too. Wow, this brings tears to my eyes. Who knew what this morning would reveal. Thank you so very much. I’m going to print out those verses you gave and keep them in the front of my Bible. God’s grace, peace and blessings to you and yours.”
What is scary is that I am mindful of conversations I have had in the last couple of weeks online, where I saw a problem but I added to the problem rather than shining God’s love on the problem. I’ve got some mending to do.
PLEASE PLEASE READ THIS POST.
What started out as pleasant conversation ended in hurt feelings, tears, misunderstanding, and a chill between myself and someone I dearly love. Oh, how I wished I could take back my words! I apologized, but the damage was already done. A heated theological discussion got out of hand and it was my fault. It wasn’t […]