Negativity

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Maybe it’s because of the time of the year, maybe it’s because I can’t wait for spring to arrive and have more sunlight, maybe it’s because this old body of mine is really starting to feel the wear and tear I’ve accumulated over the years or maybe it’s because I really don’t enjoy the cold weather anymore, like I used to when I was younger. I really don’t know, but historically, for me, February is probably the one month out of the whole year when I really have to work or focus on the positive and keep my eyes off of the negative.

And there is no shortage of negativity, it seems as though we’re just surrounded with the stuff, just about everywhere one looks at or hears. Yet, I am also mindful that the negatives that I face are hardly worth mentioning, compared to what some other Christian brothers or sisters have to deal with. Keeping a “balanced perspective” is important. I’m thinking my tolerance levels must dip a bit during February for some reason, or my patience seems to take a vacation. February is always a good month for me to keep my lips pressed tightly together. Keep my negative comments and thoughts to myself, so to speak, because my smile muscles and cheery disposition seem to have taken the month off.

Candidly, I’m pretty sure some of my family members would want to question that “cheery disposition” statement of mine, especially the “all year long” aspect, but what the heck, nobody’s perfect. I do smile, I have pictures to prove it! I even broke down yesterday and laughed at one of my granddaughters (no picture though, you’ll have to take my word on that one, but I do have a witness)!

Philippians 4:8 NASB

Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.”

I’ve mentioned previously about trying to keep it simple or basic. Spending time in God’s Word is always a positive, earnest time in prayer is another. One foot in front of the other type of thing. I’ve even been asking Jesus to grant me grace to really keep my hand in His as of late. I’m thinking that is about as basic as one can get and that, for lack of better words, is about where I need to be about now. Actually, that is always a good place to be.

I find that February is a good month to do those little “extra things”  for those that you love, that I sometimes have a tendency to put off. Tackle some of those “To Do” list items that will please my spouse. Or buy my wife flowers for no reason at all other than I’m so thankful she is still with me. Kind of balance out some of the dips with a little upward blip whenever possible. Giving hugs  “just because” is another sure winner, although I find I am more “selective” with hugs in February. Giving young children hugs is always easy, their parents however, I have to sometimes remind myself that none of us are promised tomorrow and to take advantage of hug opportunities whenever they present themselves. Funny how when you get older, you really don’t want time to fly by so fast that it feels more like a bullet, but sometimes, in the midst of the bullet, you just want this current time frame to be done with.

Thankfully February is the shortest month of the year and it is rapidly coming to a close. Now if I can just bunker down until the end of the month, things should start to improve in March!

Lord, forgive me for how fickle I am.

Don’t forget “. . . dwell on these things.”

Worthy is the Lamb! Blessings!

 

 

 

 

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  1. Don’t we all feel like this ? The weather has been crazy and yes the cold isn’t as much ‘fun’ as when we were young but for me…I seem to be waiting…..waiting for what I’m not sure but I certainly feel the weight of waiting.

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    1. I think you’re probably right Beverly, at least with most of us. The Apostle Paul said that he had learned to be content in all situations. I’m still being “worked on” in that area. Grace and blessings to you and yours!

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  2. Hang in there Bruce, it won’t be long. I never thought it could be possible to hate winter for those who love it. I am one who loves winter and February is my physical birth month, so I’m still loving it. Lol
    Perhaps hugging those you want to choke is the cure for the cause. Like trying to win over those who are miserable, once you crack them, their friends for life.
    Sending you a big French Canadian hug from Alberta with a kiss on each cheek.
    Much Peace and Love to you and yours.
    Blessings

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    1. Things are looking up already Stephen! French Canadian hug from Alberta with a kiss on each cheek! Life doesn’t get much better than that! Blessings to you and yours also my friend.

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  3. I understand. When I lived in Syracuse NY I thought spring would never come. And … some years it never did. 🙂

    You’ve nailed it. We can control what we think and say (with the power of the Holy Spirit).

    Blessings from down south!

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  4. I believe that cold is a “relative” term. My brother-in-love lives in Florida and he is cold while wearing a sweater on when it is 50. We are in Tennessee and think it is cold when it is in the low 30s. When I lived in Chicago, we did not use our winter coat until it was below freezing. We become acclimated to whatever clime we are in … however, the dreariness of the skies is difficult to overcome no matter where you are. We know that the sun will shine again, it just seems like it takes longer when it is dreary and cold at the same time. Praise God that the Son is always with us, even in dreary weather. He can brighten our countenance with His Word and His Spirit. Reading Scripture with a hot cup of tea warms my heart and my hands! Blessings to you today.

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    1. Hi Linda, I think you’re probably correct although I find as I get older the window of the weather’s “acceptability” seems to get smaller and smaller. It couldn’t possibly be that I am getting fussier! God’s grace, peace and blessing to you and yours also!

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  5. I see myself as an optimistic guy, but I once had someone come to me and tell me they had thought about helping me to be more optimistic like them but they didn’t think it would work. They seemed serious. I told them it would be the most helpful in the spring. Winter has an effect for sure.

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    1. I used to work in an underground bunker that was part of our nuclear defense while I was in the Canadian military and in the winter, it would be dark when you went to work and dark when you got off work so you never got to see daylight when working. I wasn’t keen over that but you adapt. We also had a military presence in the Arctic called CFS Alert where it was dark for six months of the year. Fortunately I never got posted there. Some of the guys who did work there developed mental problems while there, what with the six months of darkness and all. I think I would have been alright but I agree, there is an effect. Our daylight is increasing now so we’re on the upward swing. Here in Halifax, Nova Scotia, in December, it gets dark at 5:00 PM and sunrise is at about 8:00 AM, even with daylight saving in effect. Today, sunrise is at 7:00 AM and sunset at almost at 6:00 PM so spring is on the way! God’s grace and blessings to you and yours Gary.

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  6. March is just around the corner, Bruce. I know how you feel. I don’t get outside much, but it was beautiful the other day and I went outside and the sun felt like it was recharging me.

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  7. Hello papa Bruce,
    I am being strengthened by these insightful teachings in these chapters of the John.
    I just learn this word”Tolerance “.
    God has/is always kind, forgiving, patient,….toward us; but we fail to understand others’ weaknesses especially when they sin against us. May God open our eyes to see. Thank you so much for the teaching I know it’s gonna touch some of us; they’ll come to know who Jesus is and the power of His cross. May God strengthen and hold shield you and yours in Jesus’ name.

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    1. HELLO EPIMAC! How nice to see you on my blog! I’m glad you’re enjoying the commentary on the Gospel of John. Tolerance, isn’t that something that we all could use more of. I know I definitely could. God’s grace, peace and blessings to you and yours my brother.

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  8. Hello papa Bruce,
    I am being strengthened by these insightful teachings in these chapters of John.
    I just learn this word”Tolerance “.
    God has been/is always kind, forgiving, patient,….toward us; but we fail to understand others’ weaknesses especially when they sin against us. May God open our eyes to see. Thank you so much for the teaching I know it’s gonna touch some of us; they’ll come to know who Jesus is and the power of His cross. Thank you for accepting to reach out to others, you are a good servant who does not hold the coin, but go and sell to benefit(the parable about the men who were given coin for business). May God strengthen and shield you and yours in Jesus’ name.

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    1. Thank you for the kind words Epimac, and your blessing. How we react when others sin against us, lets us know how much more we need Christ living in us. That is always a hard lesson to learn. Blessings to you and yours and give my best to your wife for me.

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