Being dishonest is like wearing a clean shirt over a dirty T-shirt. You know the T-shirt is dirty but you don’t want others to see it because the truth of the matter is, you’re comfortable with the dirty T-shirt and you don’t want to remove it.
Jesus spoke about this very thing. Well, He did use different descriptive adjectives, but it is still the same thing. Matthew 23:27 NASB reads: ““Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you are like whitewashed tombs which on the outside appear beautiful, but inside they are full of dead men’s bones and all uncleanness.”
I think we all have a tendency to do this from time to time but some people make a real career out of it. They paint a picture for you but that picture is full of double standards, one for them and another for you. They take exception at what they think you have done to them but they justify what they do to you. Jesus dealt with that too, when He reminded us about removing the log from our own eye before we go about removing twigs from other people’s eyes.
I get tired of playing what I call head games. That is basically what the person is putting out there as righteousness, that is basically anything but. And it’s not that I don’t have the where with all to address these inconsistencies, but what purpose does it actually serve? Once these inconsistencies become part of who you are, people have a tendency to protect them at all costs, because to do otherwise will allow that dirty T-shirt to be seen and we simply can’t have that. There is an image to be maintained, a certain bravado to be displayed, that doesn’t want to deal with honesty in all things, as it is applied to all people, including ourselves, especially where mercy, justice and forgiveness are being equated.
And then there is the whole sordid mess of the going through the process of “they said, we said”, which is equally disheartening, especially among Christians. I know that I am not perfect and I make mistakes but that does not give me license to use that as an excuse for doing more of the same, time and time again. Sooner or later, hopefully sooner, I do have to come to grips with reality and admit when I have done a wrong and make right that wrong, even if it means wearing egg on my face. I believe that is what Jesus asks us to do and the long and the short of it is, if I really take to heart what Jesus says, I do have to deal with that, because Jesus doesn’t play head games either.
An unfortunate exchange happened recently that I am not going to go into any great detail about. Suffice to say that I deemed it necessary to take exception to some statements that were made by a fellow Christian that supposedly represented facts, that I thought were speculation and causing harm, not to mention inappropriate conduct, that there is no justification for. So I authored a post. I actually went to the trouble of going through the expected rebuttal and systematically noted where false assumptions had been made and inconsistencies abounded. It took me about four hours, . . . . and then I trashed it, because Jesus would not have me do that, He doesn’t argue moot points, He doesn’t validate that type of interaction by entering into it.
My pride was hurt that this individual didn’t think I could see beneath the inconsistencies and the false assumptions that were being articulated and I felt that I needed to justify my observations. But my pride is not really part of the equation, my so called perception of truth is not all that important, the totality of the truth that Jesus gives us is and I do have to acknowledge that, in a practical application, where the rubber hits the road. Not to mention, if I had of pursed this, the only one that would have won would have been our accuser, and I know that isn’t the answer.
The written word can be an ineffective way of communicating at times, subject to misinterpretation, as we all are aware. Emotions can quickly become involved and that border line of speaking in and with love, for and to the other person, quickly crossed, and that includes myself.
I honestly don’t know what the answer is, we are told to defend truth and I thought that was what I was doing, out of concern, but I can tell you, I don’t like the results. I don’t like the dishonesty being articulated back and I don’t like the way in which my pride and hurt feelings rise to the surface either. So I will forgive and move on, hopefully finding an answer somewhere down the road, being mindful that we are called to a higher standard and we are all answerable to God’s truth.
Worthy is the Lamb! Blessings!