I Strongly Dislike Dishonesty

Being dishonest is like wearing a clean shirt over a dirty T-shirt. You know the T-shirt is dirty but you don’t want others to see it because the truth of the matter is, you’re comfortable with the dirty T-shirt and you don’t want to remove it.

Jesus spoke about this very thing. Well, He did use different descriptive adjectives, but it is still the same thing. Matthew 23:27 NASB reads: ““Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you are like whitewashed tombs which on the outside appear beautiful, but inside they are full of dead men’s bones and all uncleanness.”

I think we all have a tendency to do this from time to time but some people make a real career out of it. They paint a picture for you but that picture is full of double standards, one for them and another for you. They take exception at what they think you have done to them but they justify what they do to you. Jesus dealt with that too, when He reminded us about removing the log from our own eye before we go about removing twigs from other people’s eyes.

I get tired of playing what I call head games. That is basically what the person is putting out there as righteousness, that is basically anything but. And it’s not that I don’t have the where with all to address these inconsistencies, but what purpose does it actually serve? Once these inconsistencies become part of who you are, people have a tendency to protect them at all costs, because to do otherwise will allow that dirty T-shirt to be seen and we simply can’t have that. There is an image to be maintained, a certain bravado to be displayed, that doesn’t want to deal with honesty in all things, as it is applied to all people, including ourselves, especially where mercy, justice and forgiveness are being equated.

And then there is the whole sordid mess of the going through the process of “they said, we said”, which is equally disheartening, especially among Christians. I know that I am not perfect and I make mistakes but that does not give me license to use that as an excuse for doing more of the same, time and time again. Sooner or later, hopefully sooner, I do have to come to grips with reality and admit when I have done a wrong and make right that wrong, even if it means wearing egg on my face. I believe that is what Jesus asks us to do and the long and the short of it is, if I really take to heart what Jesus says, I do have to deal with that, because Jesus doesn’t play head games either.

An unfortunate exchange happened recently that I am not going to go into any great detail about. Suffice to say that I deemed it necessary to take exception to some statements that were made by a fellow Christian that supposedly represented facts, that I thought were speculation and causing harm, not to mention inappropriate conduct, that there is no justification for. So I authored a post. I actually went to the trouble of going through the expected rebuttal and systematically noted where false assumptions had been made and inconsistencies abounded. It took me about four hours, . . . . and then I trashed it, because Jesus would not have me do that, He doesn’t argue moot points, He doesn’t validate that type of interaction by entering into it.

My pride was hurt that this individual didn’t think I could see beneath the inconsistencies and the false assumptions that were being articulated and I felt that I needed to justify my observations. But my pride is not really part of the equation, my so called perception of truth is not all that important, the totality of the truth that Jesus gives us is and I do have to acknowledge that, in a practical application, where the rubber hits the road. Not to mention, if I had of pursed this, the only one that would have won would have been our accuser, and I know that isn’t the answer.

The written word can be an ineffective way of communicating at times, subject to misinterpretation, as we all are aware. Emotions can quickly become involved and that border line of speaking in and with love, for and to the other person, quickly crossed, and that includes myself. 

I honestly don’t know what the answer is, we are told to defend truth and I thought that was what I was doing, out of concern, but I can tell you, I don’t like the results. I don’t like the dishonesty being articulated back and I don’t like the way in which my pride and hurt feelings rise to the surface either. So I will forgive and move on, hopefully finding an answer somewhere down the road, being mindful that we are called to a higher standard and we are all answerable to God’s truth.

Worthy is the Lamb! Blessings!

22 comments

  1. Amen. We are called to a higher standard. Sometimes we do want to spell out the truth.For several tkmes in the past I was tempted to speak my mind. Partly because it touched my pride and partly because I want to speak the truth. But there were instances, like you, I refrained from doing it because sometimes the Lord convicts us to take the road of meekness and silence… Especially if what we are going to do is mingled with “pride”. Our foremost role is to honor Him and it is more honorable to forgive.❤️

    Great post.

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    • Hi Deborah, it definitely does call our motives into question, especially when unjustified assumptions are levelled against us and we jump to respond. Defending our perception of truth can indeed be enlightening, both to ourselves and others. Thank you for your kind remarks. God’s grace, peace and blessings to you and yours.

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  2. You hit it at the end, Bruce: “So I will forgive and move on.” Especially, the second part. I never have a problem moving on, and that’s what I did in that situation. I said, “Here is what I’m going to say, and then I’m done with it.” And that’s what I did. And poof, the entire thing just vanished. I suppose that’s the way I am, though.

    Good post.

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    • Well that’s probably a good thing David, one that apparently, part of me still wants to correct, when it comes to being falsely associated with Liberal Christianity, to invalidate my observations and questions. But the price of doing that is too high because ultimately it is Christ that is discredited by association and I really don’t want to be a part of that either. These fine lines can be dicey. Blessings David and thank you for your wise consul.

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  3. This reminds me of a Scripture that keeps coming to mind these days:
    “They know nothing, they understand nothing;
    their eyes are plastered over so they cannot see,
    and their minds closed so they cannot understand.
    19 No one stops to think,
    no one has the knowledge or understanding …
    20 Such a person feeds on ashes; a deluded heart misleads him;
    he cannot save himself, or say,
    “Is not this thing in my right hand a lie?”Isaiah 44:18-20
    Well, that sums it up, doesn’t it?
    Blessings Bruce!

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  4. “I will forgive and move on,” I’m glad to hear that 🙂

    It’s impossible to get along with everybody all of the time, and the kindest thing we can do is forgive and move on. And hopefully stop winning imaginary arguments in the shower! 🤔 Oh, you don’t do that? Uh… me either! 😇

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  5. It really is a moot point. If you know there is no way to get through to a person, then you are wasting your time trying to educate them to prove out their thoughts when they can’t. “Dust off” their attempts to discredit truth. Truth itself will always make itself known beyond human behavior which tries to destroy it. In the end ego has to bow because, on its own, it is destined to fail and the person’s only hope is letting go and letting God.

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    • I reread your post again Tom just to refresh my memory (grey cells are going). This instance was definitely one of those times (and then some). You’re right, it infrequently happens and sometimes avoidance is the only remedy. This instance also had political overtones, a lot of accusatory assumptions on his end and a good dash of patriotic zeal (for lack of better words), so diminishing any further damage seemed like the prudent thing to do. It certainly brings one face to face with what you’d like to do and what you know Jesus would have you do, which in this instance weren’t exactly the same but God’s grace won out and I dropped the mike. It is still sad though. Thanks for reaching out, sincerely appreciated. God’s peace, grace and blessings to you and yours.

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      • Situations like these are definitely sad, Bruce. We’re still saddened by the loss of the friendship with that couple. But some believers are just so emotionally invested in particular paradigms that reasonable discussions and friendships are not possible.
        Thanks and blessings to you and yours as well.

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  6. “It took me about four hours, . . . . and then I trashed it, because Jesus would not have me do that”. This here is the defining response for me Bruce. Listening and doing what God wants even if it hurts us. You have demonstrated how grace works in difficult situations. Praying for more grace for us all.
    Blessings, Harriet.

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