Unanswered Questions

Have you ever hit a series of events or circumstances that have left you scratching your head? I’ve had one reoccurring troublesome question as of late and then a couple of other unexpected changing circumstances that have bothered me.

The reoccurring question has to do with Ravi Zacharias. I can’t for the life of me understand how Ravi could speak as he did and do the things that he has been reported doing. How does one justify that type of thing in one’s mind, knowing what he knew and yet pursuing it anyway? I suspected an element of pride involved when the inaccurate academic credentials came to light and I could forgive that because it was eventually corrected and none of us are perfect, but I had no idea of the other activities that he was involved in. I just don’t understand how a person could even remotely accept the recognition that he justifiably received and yet follow through with the activities that he hid. I find that whole situation incredibly sad and quite frankly, mind boggling. And as often as I hear his name, what has transpired all comes back to me.

Then there have been a couple of recent events that are not earth shattering, individually in themselves, but collectively what with the Ravi incident in mind, illustrate to me how what one would have never suspected, can so quickly change. I’m deliberately not going to provide any identifying information but the choices these two individuals have made is obviously their right, but the consequences of their decisions, does affect me.

The first of these two lesser events has to do with an individual deciding to walk away from their faith in Jesus and consequently, Christianity. I know, it happens, but about a week ago, I would never have suspected that it could happen with this particular individual. Numerous exchanges over a number of months with this individual showed no indication of this probability. The thing is, you just don’t always know what is going on in the background. And to see this happen hurts because I honestly care for them. And of course, the consequences of this decision, for this individual, from a Christian perspective, are not good. I understand that people can definitely change their minds but it doesn’t diminish the ache that one feels in one’s heart.

The second of these two lesser events has to do with an individual that I have known for a while now and took delight in. But something changed within the last couple of months and I don’t really know what it was. Nothing that I normally write about has been specifically said to me, but twice now, within the last few weeks, they have stopped following me on WordPress. They stopped following me for a while, then restarted and then stopped again. Obviously you can’t force these kind of things and they have the right to do whatever they want, but if there is friendship and fellowship there, why not voice the concern rather than just following through with the stopping of receiving of my posts? When we slight someone, the person who is slighted notices. The tone in the diminished online exchanges changes. And just to clarify, I have people who start and stop following me all of the time, I understand and can accept that. Those are the casual connections but this is not a casual. One would think that something as trivial as this wouldn’t bother me, but it does. The thing is, it’s not trivial.

If I say something that offends you or you take exception to, let me know. I will be the first one to admit that my sensitivity classes don’t always kick in. If I have misspoken I will apologize or at a minimum, try to be more accommodating to you in the future. I can tell you that based on the recent trend I am seeing, being faithful and loving towards one another, is not our strong suit.

Maybe it’s just the combination of events that have happened as of late that make these “events” more than they really are, or maybe it’s other factors that I’m not aware of, but I’m thinking it’s probably a good time for me to take a breather from WordPress for a while.

Worthy is the Lamb! Blessings!

33 comments

  1. There are always questions that we don’t have the answer to, and you comfortably bet these are the questions that satan our enemy uses against us. Uncertainties that leave us guessing are his favourite distractions and discouragements. I know from personal experience that these things hurt, I remember an incident years ago when a dear sister in the Lord inexplicably attacked me verbally in public. The fall out from that was seriously damaging to my walk for a while, but praise God He brought me through it and showed me that it was the work of satan to stop me serving God. It almost worked too.
    Dear Bruce, hang in there brother! I for one would be sorry to see you leave our fellowship on WordPress. May Father God touch you with His Spirit and guide you in these difficult times.

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  2. Bruce, thanks for sharing your heart. Many years ago, a minister who I worked as secretary for and who was truly gifted by God in his preaching, was found to be financially and personally dishonest. Because of my knowledge of this behavior, I resigned. I soon became his target for horrible lies as he tried his best to discredit anything I might reveal about his activities. A number of Christian friends in that church distanced themselves from me, but not from him — they made a choice. Some years later he was arrested for very similar actions; he had never changed his behavior. It took a long time for me to get past this period in my life but with God’s grace and the power of forgiveness, I did. Unfortunately it happens to many believers. Keep believing, keep forgiving, keep interceding. And keep writing, please.

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    • Hi Bette, thank you for sharing! That would be extremely difficult for sure. I think I am disappointed more than anything but I’ve been there before. When these things start adding up inside, it usually is a sign to disengage for a while and dive into God’s Word more. Just taking a break for a week or two, I’ll be back. And you’re absolutely right about keep believing, keep forgiving and keep interceding. Thank you Bette, sincerely appreciated. Blessings!

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  3. I’m honestly sad to hear about your friend who walked away from Christianity. If you are good friends with this person, I would encourage you to ask “why?” This might help you know how to approach this situation and how to help. Assuming that the person is near to you and would listen to you, of course.

    I have seen people walk away from the faith because a preacher would promise them something that was not in the Bible (“Your healing is coming!” -Joel Osteen). And when “God’s promise” (which is really a preacher’s false promise) doesn’t come true, they think God has wronged them. That’s an example of how knowing the why can help you help your friend.

    The second person you mentioned is not me, but I have done that before with other blogs! When I unfollow and re-follow, I’m usually not-so-sure about the blog. This person might just be unsure about your posts. I don’t know.

    Anyway, I hope anything I wrote can provide some help or trigger some ideas! 🙂

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    • Thanks for your wise advice. I’ve already asked the “why” and responded to the reasons given but to no avail. Just took me by surprise because about a week ago they responded to a post of mine, applauding the truth of what I had written about. Hard to believe how that switch can just be turned off. You recommended I take a break a few days ago, I’m thinking that is good advice. Not leaving, just taking a breakcation. Blessings as always!

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      • Oh, that’s too bad :-/ I guess all that can be done now is to pray for your friend.

        Breaks are good. I take a break from online every month. I don’t think anyone notices 😦 Hahaha 😄 I just came back from a week+ off, and in case you worry about stuff like this, I never lose followers when I take a break– actually, a few more people end up following. At least that has been my experience.

        And thanks! God bless and enjoy your weekend 🙂

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  4. Perhaps the main problem with seeing people behave differently than we expected is we doubt our discernment when the truth comes out.

    Although I didn’t know much about Zacharias there have been others who’ve fooled me. Looking back I wonder why I didn’t understand or discern what was going on. Why did I let myself be deceived? Am I deceiving or have I deceived others even unwittingly?

    Repentance is good. I am grateful for the opportunity, but I pray to be neither the deceiver nor the deceived.

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    • Hi Frank, I don’t know if it a matter of discernment so much as being caught unawares because there was nothing readily available to discern. But I’m definitely with you on praying to be neither the deceiver nor the deceived. Thanks for taking the time to comment Frank, sincerely appreciated. Blessings!

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  5. Breaks are good Bruce. I’m not invested much in Word Press except for some loyalty to a set of bloggers I have grown fond of or feel some sort of comradery and respect (you being one I wouldn’t mind sitting around the campfire with soneday). To me a break would be 6 months to a year. What is a break to you?

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  6. Yes, yes, yes – everything you mentioned here has been affecting me, as well. The Ravi mess, and shortly before that, the mess at Liberty University.

    These things are more than a little triggering for me, because my dad had been the pastor of our church for six years, when he was arrested for trying to murder my mother. I was twelve years old when that happened. Ever since then, anytime that I have heard or read about someone in a Christian ministry secretly living in habitual, unrepentant sin… it brings back a lot of painful memories.

    Regarding the blogger we know who recently decided to delete their lovely, inspiring Christian blog, and start a new blog about no longer believing in Christ… I, too, did not see any sign of that coming. It is a terrible shock and a huge heartache. I am praying for this person. Right now, I don’t know what else to do.

    On the topic of being unfollowed by someone you have interacted with and bonded with over the course of many months or years, with no warning or explanation – that hurts, BIG time. Within the past year and a half, I have been unfollowed by 4 people that I had grown close to and felt like they were part of my Christian family. Now, when I see comments posted by some of these individuals on the blogs of other people that I follow – including one of them, who still regularly ‘likes’ and posts on your blog right here – it hurts. It stings and burns. It feels kind of like a slap in the face. When I see those comments, I often have to stop and pray and ask the Lord to help me not be bitter or unforgiving.

    But here’s the irony: I have unfollowed a few blogs in the past 18 months or so, for the simple reason that they had stopped posting about the topics I had originally enjoyed reading about, mostly topics on Christianity, or about living with and healing from PTSD, and they were now posting almost exclusively about political matters and conspiracy theories. I am just not big into politics, or off the wall conspiracies. I pray for our country and for our world, I pray for those in government, and I vote. Beyond that, my number one focus is on our Lord and Savior, Jesus, who said that His kingdom is not of this world, and my number two focus is on my husband’s and my health, both with regards to us both having PTSD, and to my husband currently being treated for cancer. I just have time for politics!

    So really, when I feel wounded over someone that I had felt close to, unfollowing me all of a sudden, I need to remind myself that I have done the same to some others, when their posts changed too much for my liking. This blog world is a bit complicated, isn’t it? I think even more so, in the strange times we are living in.

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    • Oops, I meant to say, at the end of my second to last paragraph, that I just don’t have time for politics. My dear hubby is the cook in our house, he is awesome like that. He called me to come and eat and I posted my comment before it was ready.

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    • It seems to me, and I am just surmising here, that all of us could be a little more aware of the ramifications of how and what we say or do, and how it may affect others. I know that is an awfully tall order and numerous times we are just not going to know or even be aware, put to at least have that thought sitting in the back of your mind would be a step in the right direction. The Apostle Paul tells us to also consider the welfare of others and not just ourselves (Phil 2:3-4). Example: this is how what they say affected me but how will what I say or do affect them in return? And I think you’re right Linda, when we see how difficult this is when we are interacting with others, then we should be mindful of being gracious when they may do it to us. Heavy stuff and thank you! Blessings.

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  7. Bruce, I have had friends “unfollow” me, usually over something I wrote in my weekend news commentary or over an opinionated post. If you don’t toe the popular evangelical line regarding politics and the pandemic, you’re in jeopardy of being “cancelled” by the same people who are just as quick to criticize the Left’s “cancel culture.”

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    • Hi Steve, sounds pretty biblical to me! Diving into God’s Word and heavy on prayer. God’s been showing me the dangers associated with Deliverance Ministries as of late so I’m just following His lead. It’s an awful big scope and so many are entrenched in it. Please keep me in your prayers. Blessings!

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  8. I could totally relate as to how mind boggling it is regarding Ravi and those who fall away. It is sad and it does affect us.

    You may have friends who unfollowed you here, but keep writing and keep serving God with your gift. If Jesus would be here in wordpress, I think, He would have tons of “unfollowing” too just as He had during His ministry on earth. Just a thought. God bless you.

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  9. It does hit my heart too. I think it should hit all of our hearts when someone young or old decides to simply walk away. It’s even more baffling during these times. We should be running to the church doors, running those we know who know the truth….and we are the ones who know the truth we should be standing with arms wide open. But if they don’t want to hear it then what can a person do? No need to answer me Bruce. Just wanted to support you in the comments. Enjoy your break.

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    • Hi Amy, to not even acknowledge what I wrote and then to drop me from following was a surprise. Definitely a closed door, pretty sure I heard it slam. Thanks for commenting Amy, blessings to you and yours!

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  10. In regard to your friend who ended the conversation … I keep thinking of the Scripture that says, “So neither the one who plants nor the one who waters is anything, but only God, who makes things grow.” 1 Corinthians 3:7
    I think it’s possible that you did your part and now God will take over. Sometimes we just get to plant a seed and that’s all we get to do. Thanks for sharing. Blessings Bruce!

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