What We See of Ourselves in Ourselves

One of the most difficult things to deal with in life, is seeing our own shortfalls, in the lives of those that we love. And the difficulty with dealing with this reality, increases with age, because as time does go on, we become increasingly more aware of our own weaknesses, especially where it focuses on humanistic tendencies. The difficult part is not seeing what we see, that is relatively easy, it is how we react to what we see that is the difficult part.

Why we do, what we do and especially how we do it, in particular, to those that we love, can be difficult and complicated. For those of us who have given the helm of our endeavours to our Shepherd, Jesus, some of the fog surrounding numerous issues eventually clears. False pride is a biggie, and another little gem is the process of learning how confused we can become at correcting both ourselves, and others, of what we see in ourselves and others. And just to clarify a point, I am NOT advocating that we are to not correct or assist other Christians with problems they may have, but before we do that, Jesus has told us that we need to initially examine ourselves for the same fault we do see in others.

Of course, when we “suggest” what we have learned along the way, to those that we love, the motivation for doing so is to spare them from going through what we have already gone through. I put my hand on that hot burner and it hurts and I don’t want you to get hurt, so I give you my “suggestion”. The whole problem with that process in futility is that, human beings, being what we all are, like to learn things for ourselves. When dealing with this reality there are two Scripture verses that come to my mind. The 1st one is from Proverbs 3:5 NASB and reads as follows:

Trust in the Lord with all your heart And do not lean on your own understanding.

And the 2nd is from Matthew 7:5 NASB which reads as follows:
You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye!

There are many Scripture verses scattered throughout the Bible that tell us to trust God’s thoughts and ways over our own comprehension. Of course, when we are young and as we progress through this life that we have been given, we all have a tendency to think that we don’t need God calling the shots for us, we are all thoroughly capable of figuring it all out for ourselves. But even after we confess our sins and believe in Jesus as our Lord and Saviour, we bring this baggage from our past with us. The new area we now have to explore is God’s Holy Word and most of us dig right in. And coming to grips with the new found area of wisdom and knowledge can indeed be challenging. And the reason it is challenging is because, in most part, of the baggage that we bring. We put Jesus at the helm of our little ship, but as time and opportunities present themselves, we keep nudging Jesus out of the way and we basically take over, yet once again. We reverse the proper order.

It’s interesting to note the proportions of the areas of fault that Jesus did tell us to address. The bigger portion, the “log” is in our own eye and the smaller portion, the “speck” is in the other persons eye. Correct me if I am wrong but don’t we usually reverse those? What the other person is doing is “big” and what we do is “small”? Oh yes, I remember now, that is where the two standards luggage that we bring with us also comes into play. That was our former thinking where there is a standard that others have to be held to and then there is our standard, and inevitably, our standard is a tad more accommodating.

Problem with that logic of course is that, that is not how our holy, just and righteous God works. He states there is one standard for all, applied to all, evenly, without favour towards one or the other. And most of us can see the logic in that, we just don’t like it when it is applied to us. When it comes to receiving mercy, we are more deserving because there are all those “extenuating circumstances” that need to be taken into account. Our human nature, being what it is, has a tendency to call that into play for ourselves but not so much for others. I wonder if that has anything to do with the proportions that Jesus mentioned and us reversing God’s ways again?

I mentioned about false pride earlier. That is where we expound to others, about all the knowledge, wisdom and understanding that we possess, that others evidently don’t have. Usually that is associated with “truth”. Truth that some possess and others don’t comprehend. But is that Biblical truth or worldly truth because the two are seldom, if ever, one and the same. According to God’s Word, there is only one source of truth and that is God, and Jesus, being the declared Son of God, stated categorically that He is the truth. Did you ever notice how we get those two sources of truth reversed all the time? 

If you have graciously read through to this point, I hope you have noticed how many times I have used the word “reversed“. We all have a tendency to keep missing what God tells us about Himself and ourselves. 

Isaiah 55:8-9 NASB
“For My thoughts are not your thoughts,
Nor are your ways My ways,” declares the Lord.
“For as the heavens are higher than the earth,
So are My ways higher than your ways
And My thoughts than your thoughts.”

That is what I too frequently see in me, what do you see in you?

Worthy is the Lamb! Blessings!


  1. Well done, Bruce. Thank you for being open about what you see in yourself.
    When I look in the mirror I see a man on a mission, but often question what mission this man is on. It’s a strange mix of godly (for the most part) ambition and self doubt. Like Moses, I want to do something big to help people but often don’t feel up to the task.

    It’s a good thing His strength is perfect!



    • Hi Cindy, yes that is true, especially the accepting part. I have found, over the years, that sometimes, when I am looking for an particular answer or specific direction, God will send me the same answer via two or three variable means. Blessings!

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  2. Good morning, Bruce. I just received a long message from a witch countering my article on “Psychics and Witchcraft…Is it Harmless?..” I want to send this person a link that explains why the Bible is the Word of God, and how miraculous it is that it all lines up even though it was written over hundreds of years by different people. I need an article designed to speak to the unbeliever who is seeking truth. I have been searching your “Resources”, but maybe you have a recommendation. Blessings!


    • I was impressed with the amount of work that you had done, and then I viewed most of your other 15 websites. And then there was Vietnam and the music you listened to and your thoughts about American politics. I am 76 years old, spent 31+ years in the Canadian Armed Forces and obviously lived in Canada throughout. Two different worlds really with some similarities but many differences. Joined the military when I was 17 back in 1962, not really having too much of a clue. I take my hat off to anyone who served and went through Vietnam. Been to a lot of places and seen a lot of things and have conversed with many American Christians over the years, realizing that I would have to live in your life to appreciate and know how you make your decisions. Me being kind, no, not really, pretty sure it is the other way around. God’s blessings on you and yours my friend.

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  3. My older sister was one of those who had to learn everything for herself, and she got hit with quite a few consequences in her day. Me, I was not crazy about pain and being in trouble, so I was often quite willing to observe and learn from HER mistakes. 😉


    • And that one decision Annie, lets me partially appreciate how wise you are. The complexity and differences in all of our individual paths, and how we come to realize, over time, how little we truly know, about ourselves, and others, amazes me. And God knows every one of our stories, every detail, every success and failure. Comprehend that puppy. I’m just glad our paths have crossed. Blessings!


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