Whether to judge or not judge can be problematic to a Christian because the world view point and the Christian view point are radically different in a number of important areas. How to deal with this ever changing environment on a person to person level becomes much more challenging. Perplexing is another word that comes to mind because I know that I often feel like the values that I uphold are being rapidly abandoned by our society. Subjects like abortion, same sex marriage, homosexuality, integrity and honesty come to mind. How we address these changes in our day to day conversations (should they come up) with fellow workers, non-Christians friends and relatives becomes vitally important.
I found an excellent overview on what, in my opinion, constitutes a sound biblical study on judgement and more importantly, it’s application. I would recommend that you go through the entire two sections. The links to the two part series are as follows:
Application (how we judge) is so vitally important. The Golden Rule of do unto others as you would have them do unto you has to be the guiding factor in tone and delivery.
I am going to give you an example of how this worked out for me on a practical basis. A number of years ago I was serving with the United Nations Peace Keeping forces in Cyprus. I lived and worked with about 20 other Canadian soldiers. I had asked God to show me how to witness to others about Him on a day to day practical basis. My part of the bargain was to get up early each morning, devote time to Bible study and prayer and then throughout the day do whatever I could to serve my fellow soldiers. That meant cleaning up after them, cooking for them, talking to them whenever God gave me an opportunity to do so. It was quite the experience. There were many lessons that I learned but I will only share one of them at this time.
One afternoon a small group of us were walking together and one of my fellow soldiers indicated that he was going into town that evening to be with a whiskey dolly. “Whiskey Dolly” being a local term for a prostitute. He was married, had kids and for some reason I became really indignant that he was going to do this. I stated out loud that I was sure his wife and kids would appreciate his decision. Bad choice of words and bad timing. He stopped in his tracks, turned to me, pointed his finger in my face and told me in no uncertain terms that what he decided to do was none of my business. Needless to say I shut up.
That evening, as was my custom, I did a six mile run and I would pray as I was running. The afternoon “discussion” came up in my prayers and I was expounding to God the folly of my fellow soldier’s ways. You know that period of time when you have said all you want to say to God in your prayers and it just becomes silent. I hit one of those. That’s when God spoke to me and He said, “What did you expect him to say?” The way that I had dealt with this sinner was NOT the way that Jesus dealt with common sinners. The compassion and the non-condemnation aspect of my conversation were missing. You are allowed to judge but there are criteria that you must adhere to (the links I provided above), really important.
Lesson Learned: How you say something to someone , within the church and outside of the church, if in fact you say anything at all, dictates to a large part how they will react to your comments.
Here is a excellent video that explains about judgement for those outside of the church and for those within the church: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=axHvF5G186o
And one more video by J. Warner Wallace (Cold Case Christianity) that explains how we are to judge our fellow brothers and sisters inside the Church.: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HjZ6TQ65jBo
This is an important principal to remember in these perplexing times.