How We Are To Treat One Another – Revisited

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God’s Word has much to say about how Christians should treat one another. It never hurts to be reminded of how we are to treat one another as fellow believers in Jesus Christ. And remember that we, as His followers, are His ambassadors to the world. Do we bring Him glory through our words and actions, or do we dishonor Him in front of an unbelieving world? The words we speak are powerful. So much so that we are commanded to tame our tongue. Jesus said we would be held accountable for every idle word we speak. With this warning in mind, it should give us reason to pause and reflect upon how we interact and speak about our brothers and sisters in the Lord.

And what ever happened to greeting one another with a holy kiss? The New Testament refers to a holy kiss in Romans 16:161 Corinthians 16:202 Corinthians 13:12, and 1 Thessalonians 5:26. Which, by the way, I’m thinking would be a kiss on the cheek. Have you ever noticed that “Hollywood” and some other secular organizations, have, at times, adopted this practice, but the Western “Church” by and large hasn’t. has this overview on it. I’ve always been curious why this practise has basically disappeared.

The following Scripture verses are a small selection of what God’s Holy Word says about how we, as Christians, are to treat one another. As I have already stated, it never hurts to remind ourselves of God’s guidance.

James 3:9-12
With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers, this should not be. Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring? My brothers, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water.

Romans 12:10
Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.

Romans 12:16
Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited.

Romans 13:8
Let no debt remain outstanding, except the continuing debt to love one another, for he who loves his fellowman has fulfilled the law.

Romans 14:13
Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in your brother’s way.

Romans 15:7
Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.

Romans 15:14
I myself am convinced, my brothers, that you yourselves are full of goodness, complete in knowledge and competent to instruct one another.

Romans 16:16
Greet one another with a holy kiss. All the churches of Christ send greetings.

1 Corinthians 1:10
I appeal to you, brothers, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that all of you agree with one another so that there may be no divisions among you and that you may be perfectly united in mind and thought.

1 Corinthians 16:20
All the brothers here send you greetings. Greet one another with a holy kiss.

2 Corinthians 13:12
Greet one another with a holy kiss.

Galatians 5:13
You, my brothers, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the sinful nature ; rather, serve one another in love.

Ephesians 4:2
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.

Ephesians 4:32
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

Ephesians 5:19
Speak to one another with psalms, hymns and spiritual songs. Sing and make music in your heart to the Lord,

Ephesians 5:21
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

Colossians 3:13
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.

Colossians 3:16
Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom, and as you sing psalms, hymns and spiritual songs with gratitude in your hearts to God.

1 Thessalonians 5:11
Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.

Hebrews 3:13
But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.

Hebrews 10:24
And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds.

Hebrews 10:25
Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another; and all the more as you see the Day approaching.

James 4:11
Brothers, do not slander one another. Anyone who speaks against his brother or judges him speaks against the law and judges it. When you judge the law, you are not keeping it, but sitting in judgment on it.

1 Peter 1:22
Now that you have purified yourselves by obeying the truth so that you have sincere love for your brothers, love one another deeply, from the heart.

1 Peter 3:8
Finally, all of you, live in harmony with one another; be sympathetic, love as brothers, be compassionate and humble.

1 Peter 4:9
Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling.

1 Peter 5:5
Young men, in the same way be submissive to those who are older. All of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.

1 Peter 5:14
Greet one another with a kiss of love. Peace to all of you who are in Christ.

1 John 1:7
But if we walk in the light, as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, His Son, purifies us from all sin.

1 John 3:11
This is the message you heard from the beginning: We should love one another.

1 John 3:23
And this is His command: to believe in the name of his Son, Jesus Christ, and to love one another as He commanded us.

1 John 4:7
Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.

1 John 4:11
Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.

1 John 4:12
No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and His love is made complete in us.

2 John 1:5
And now, dear lady, I am not writing you a new command but one we have had from the beginning. I ask that we love one another.

Worthy is the Lamb! Blessings!


  1. What a great blog! I read the Scriptures twice. I used to love to have a time of shaking hands with people in church but many people are afraid of germs, viruses, etc. I personally am uncomfortable with kisses, even on the cheek, especially from men and both my husband and I would be uncomfortable with women kissing him- even on the cheek. But the message of loving our brothers and sisters in Christ and how we should be treating each other is so needed today. I needed that reminder myself. Thanks Bruce. I shared this on my blog; I hope that’s okay.
    ❤️Terri D

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  2. Bruce I will just speak for myself here. The “One another’s” of scripture have challenged me more than anything else about my outworking as a follower of Jesus. The bar was set really high for me in a small men’s group which met to sharpen each other. One guy shared how he was going to quit his job to start a ministry as he felt led to venture out but also shared his biggest stumbling block was trusting God for the money.. Another guy spoke up (who really was not rich and on a fixed income) and said “you won’t run out of money till I do”
    That is an unheard level of commitment one to another, My first thought was “God doesn’t ask us to do that does he?” The answer is “Yes, he just might do that” (me: shrinking into the corner)

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    • I hear what you are saying Gary, I have wrestled with that one myself when it comes to supporting others. There is an endless supply of those who need and we are encouraged to be generous in helping others, which my wife and I try to do. I pretty well go with the leading of God’s Holy Spirit where a concern comes to my attention and whether or not I am to become involved or not and to what degree and I think this differs for everyone. The bottom line, from my perspective, is that if God really wants us to help in a certain area, He is thoroughly capable of letting us know and then we respond accordingly. It’s a hard one to call and I’m thinking our area of influence is primarily focused on ourselves, not dictating to others what they should do. One can encourage, but it’s really in God’s hands after that. I’ve seen churches fold because of the greed of the Pastor and I have seen good works put in peril because of a clear demonstration of going way beyond what God would supply. My rule of thumb is I know I am to be willing to carry a brother’s load for a mile or two, but God does not ask me to carry it the whole way. That is when his load then becomes my load, in addition to the load I personally am carrying. Balance is also important. I think we all have grey areas that exist in this because of the many variables that can come into play. Interested in your thoughts!

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      • That is the line I hold as well Bruce. I, on my end have to keep checking my listening ability with God’s Spirit. The needs of others does not dictate my giving as much as God’s nudging. God wants us to call on him in our needs (often brought on by our own choices) and merely bailing others out may well not be God’s plan. This puts me in a position where I had better be close enough to God personally to see his thumbs up or thumbs down on how I help in the “one another” situation.
        A couple days ago I offered a young man two cords of firewood…free, and I would haul it over. He refused. His loss. I felt prompted to do so as it will be dried by winter and it’s wood cut to give away to someone. I don’t need it, he does. We never know what God is working on in others lives do we? It’s obviously not about the money or the wood. Bigger, eternal things are in play.


  3. “And what ever happened to greeting one another with a holy kiss?” Wow, Brother Bruce, a holy kiss! Many churches today and I’ve been to many don’t even like to HUG any more! There are still some though, but such is the world we live in!


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